I SMILE UPON HIM... My husband started a very formal communication with me the other day. Later in the night, very unusual of his nature, he accepted that I had a point there…
& I found the conversation interesting for a different reason…
He also wanted me to publish it. The talk was in my mother tongue – Malayalam. But here’s a crude translation of it…of course there are 'certain' changes to it, for reasons I wish to keep to myself ;)
He: Devika, let me ask you -
Me: something Serious? Sure..sure
He: You say You are positive, right?
Me: I say and I am.. You doubt??
He: See, let Me finish My question first. Why do you Hurry with things?
Me: I have No time for this beating around..Ask straight…
He: Okay, then lets Leave it..
Me: oh My Dear…ask what you wanted to, I am listening..
He: Devika, first of all Be Patient…You talk about Faith and Patience…You are the Most impatient one on earth..
Me: :-)
He: You say you are positive; but to me You are the Most Negative
Me: Why?
He: You say vivacity of Life is of Utmost Importance….No?
Me: Yes…and I said I am listening…continue with it, Would you?
He: But you always talk of Death, dying the next moment
Me: So what?
He: How’s that Positive about Life?
Me: Don’t know?? – think of Death the Next Moment…what would You do?
He: Nothing. Why do something if you are to die the next..
Me: You don’t Love your Life..
He: What would You do?
Me: I will have a hundred things to do…But, at the least I’ll sit back and Take A Long Breath
He: What difference does IT make…this is why I say you are Silly and Eccentric..
Me: I hope you don’t Claim yourself to be the Last One to be saying that…
He: I don’t….But I am afraid I Could be …
Me: You believe in God??
He: err its 6.30 ..oh'ho….He must be waiting for me..
Me: Who – God!?
He: No, I need to go..Someone is waiting for me..at the junction
Me: Oh yeah…You will Always have this someone in waiting…
He rushes out…
I’m left to watch him walk the street from my balcony, with my wide smile...
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Hi Magiceye!
:-)
Thank you for coming..My husband left with out a smile..I will tell him you smiled back at me :)
wishes,
devika
lol u have the most uncanny knack for making ppl feel uncomfortable..(take that as a compliment :p)
youre tagged and awarded..pls check it out ( hope u find the motive as well as gesture that of general goodwill)
Hi Nivedita!
Anything that comes my way is generally seen as a compliment..so no confusions there :)
LOL...Laugh Out Loud..I just get confused with my own full forms for things..to me it could mean 'Little One Laugh' -- Thats when i make the other a little less, than me :)
[but i seldom use with seniors knowingly...but on the Net you wouldn't know unless the other makes clear his/her age]
Tags and Awards -- I am honoured by the gesture...BUT, i'm afraid I NEED to say NO to both...
Tags: because, I think I need to decide what I write on my blogs...Wouldn't wish to go by any frameworks offered by others...
Awards -- Even if the Nobel Peace prize is offered to me (!!??) I will have a second thought about accepting that...
And the Awards in the Blogworld --My blogs are a free enterprise and they have to remain FREE from all honorariums..Hope you understand, if not appreciate :)
anyway, thanks for this coming...on a very personal basis, it means a lot to me :)
wishes,
devika
Hi Nivedita!
After all the commissionings the main aspect of your comment was omitted ;)
"the most uncanny knack for making ppl feel uncomfortable"-- Actually it is never intended..it happens by default! :)
but thinking of it -- only if you make uncomfortable, will they begin to think..i believe.
Joining a group to agree with them is a folly and would most likely lead to disintegration and deterioration..both for the individual and the group...
If you are aware of political developments in Kerala -- All three parties CPM, Congress and BJP are classic examples...
But, that doesn't mean one needs to be apolitical..those are larger issues that go beyond the scope of this post/comment and the blog :)
wishes,
devika
awww so sweet at the end!
i'm going to keep him.. :)
Oh my Kai...!!
You seem decided to have him.. :)
Seriously, Kai?? what would your crush do dear...:)
But if you are serious -- I have no issues..i will talk with him :)
btw, he is irritatingly strict at times..if you find him a nuissance -- return him, okay?
love you so, dear..and thank you for coming..
devika
this made me smile and made me thnk how much misunderstanding is caused by using different words while talking about the same things
;)
interesting conversation!!! :-))
Sounds familiar ;-)
Fish eye...Polona? :)
That's whole business of 'creative' writing and communication -- I feel.
and beleive me, I get so confused myself...when I read others, even sometimes when i read mine later...after i am disconnected from the context..:)
thank you for coming and the comment...
wishes,
devika
Hi Deep!
thanks for coming...
i thought women will find it interesting ;)
kidding dear, am happy that you liked it :)
wishes,
devika
Hi Cherie,
Thank you for coming...
sounds familiar? form a union?? ;)
AWWA -- All World Wives' Association...some of my friends are seriously thinking of it :)
thank you once again..
wishes,
devika
this blah blah is my nature ;)
Hope you don't mind
I like the idea of an AWWA ;-)
Hi Cherie,
;)
if serious, we will form an online forum..for me, time is the only problem..
But you know, my experience with women had been -- finally they ditch the organisation and join their husbands when in a crisis ;)
wishes,
devika
Interesting convo :)
**You talk about Faith and Patience…You are the Most impatient one on earth..
some tell me that too. I guess many ppl judge one another mostly from outward behavior. thats why. But deep down u know that u r wut u r :)
Keshi.
The observer observes
what the one that's observed
fails (or admits) to see. :-)
Hi Keshi!
Thanks dear for coming and that inspiring comment...
Yeah, deep down we know what we are :)
happy that you liked the conv..asked the experienced ones..conversation between married couple are interesting...if only, you make it ;)
wishes,
devika
Hi Masago!
You reach when you are the most unexpected..so there's a thrill to it..thank you :)
The comment has something more to think about..i'm trying to figure out :)
thanks again,
wishes,
devika
Nice conversation.
Hi Hobo!
Thanks for reaching out..
glad that you liked it :)
wishes,
devika
first timer :)...through keshi's ...
liked the way u described the feeling u had :) the conservation was out into a nice message :)..
urs..hemu..
Hi Hemu!
Welcome...Nice to see you here :)
Seen you many a time at Keshi's and other places...but, i was a bit off-mood to reach out to new blogs :)
thanks for reaching out...i'm glad that you found 'the message' in the conversation :)
i will see you there, sometime in the day or evening...
yours,
devika
:D. Nice one
Hi Jeeves,
thank you for coming..
i'm happy that you liked it :)
i went to yours in the morning..was not updated.
see you soon there,
wishes
devika
its a lovely conversation.... I wish you husband had a little more time to take this discussion to some logical or may be metaphoric end...nonetheless this sense of incompleteness would perhaps describe life better...like poetry...
Hi Amalendu!
after a long time..so nice to see you :)
i'm not joking Amalendu -- whenever the conversation gets to his disadvantage he will have some excuse to go out :)
Most practical for life he is...But, i should say many a time it makes things easy for me...the dreamer :)
anyway, thanks a lot..i have been there atleast once a week to check new ones...will keep checking..
wishes,
devika
I love this Dev, it made smile so much, what a perfect conversation, I see you so much in it....lol bravo, bravo, bravo LOL and thanks for sharing ;)
Also meant to ask you, you who are so open with your feelings, and so unafraid of what people say or think...why in the world do you need to approve the comments first? It seems such a contradiction to the open person you are...or do you have a controlling bend after all? ;)
Haahahhah..Lorraine,
I knew you would like it ;)
thanks for coming, dear
love,
dev
Hi Lorraine!
on the second comment -- my sincere answer is:
i'm in the lookout for who/what/how/why/where I belong to..i mean it...and I hope these help me clear myself a bit...
But unfortunately, I am getting more confused than earlier ;)
kidding dear..what i said answers you, I believe...
I care a damn for the world, yet I care for it the most...
that's the contradiction - perhaps, irreversible -- that i am beginning to accept about me :)
love,
dev
aah Lorraine
on thComments -- those are my release for stale air life fills in me :)
I don't think i can hold all those till death..as I said in that poem :)
love,
dev
its alright :)
i kinda expected that from the lil' bit i know of you..but the lil bit could be big coz i think i read all ur posts..
if i were amir khan i wouldnt accept awards too :p but stupid and small gestures mean too much to me..
Thank you dear...
I feel so nice when you come back saying that...
Its not about being Aamir Khan or anyone of that stardom or beyond, Nivedita...
You would have read all my posts..But the real me remains changing and different from all that you read...with ssential overlaps, of course....
but, let me tell you again..i don't believe many in the blog-ville will survive what i have been through..all my crazy mind's making may be..
whatever, past is past. period :)
thanks dear for the kind understanding...
wishes,
devika
i cannot even make ppl feel uncomfortable intentionally..when i try saying something they take it as a joke..and im not even the oh-so-sweet person..but possibly coz im called "carefree and happy" for god knows what reason..
nice example..im familiar with the political situations thnx to my dads extremely loud exclamations over morning paper
Again, nice to know Nivedita..
Be what you are, or try to become what you choose to me..Be happy :)
love
devika
I presume any best relationship is made up of good conversations.
Lots of compliments from ur hubby na **Impatient One, Most Negative one, Silly and eccentric**. That's too many in a day. You just let him go like that :)
Hello dear Suresh!
Such fine sensibility and sensitivty to relations..first thought you could be a Keralite..then found a Managlorean...neighbourhood influences, i guess..i have seen this before in Keralites only :)
And, now would you wish to know my compliments to him that day and other days!??
He said, wouldn't mind me publishing it...infact he says he loves me calling him names..BUT, it is for the respect of others of your gender who visit me here that i didn't choose to publish it and still keep to it as the blogowners discretion. :)
By the way, my husband is also a Suresh...
I can let you the Suresh Kumar go like that..
Let me have mine back..hope no issues there?? :)
anyway, nice conversation this made i guess...thank you for the visit..
wishes,
devika
One of a kind isn't it.
[Impatience pays!..typos:)]
Hi Priya!
He is, as I am -- almost made for each other!! :)
and if past-31 i decide to extend my neck for a nuptial knot..i believe, you would NOT think it was a 'just like that' affair...
and ours was supposedly a 'love marriage' where our colleagues and friends decided we made a good pair! -- really :)
we were the best of friends for about two years...i used to pair him with all women i could find in the vicinity...BUT, finally decided to bear the cross myself! :)
btw, are you married, Priya??
tell me, if you don't mind..your reflection of a woman and self makes me think you are around 24-26...tell me, i will not publish it ;)
thanks Priya for coming,
wishes,
devika
Relationships are the most difficult things in life!
ends very sweet
Hi Nick!
Thank you for reading this..
I agree; but they are so essential for life...
and between a husband and wife - i don't think it is that difficult...being based on genuine love for the other-- i believe so..
anyway, thanks once again..
wishes,
devika
Hi Rakesh!
Thanks for reading yaar..
very sweet -- like me!? ;)
nice to know you like it..
wishes,
devika
:)
Keshi.
Hi dear..
thank you for that smile :)
devika
what an interesting conversation ! I liked it though it was little bit of serious........
Hi Deepak!
Thanks for the comment...
serious subjects mostly are interesting..no??
btw, this -- "i liked it though it was little bit of serious--
you mean you usually like non-serious talks and jokes...never imagined so :)
thanks Deepak..your Delhi photos are too good..i always look around for photos of CP's busy streets...
wishes,
devika
Hi, thank you for your visit the other day.
Words can make difference.
I am just fine. Thank you.
Hi Venus!
Nice to know that :)
thank you for the visit..
wishes,
devika
it's always about love well for me anyway...:)
"we were the best of friends for about two years...i used to pair him with all women i could find in the vicinity..." Oh, that sounds like a rich story--would like to know how you came to that change from "friends" to "marriage"! It is very good to know the man you marry so well...
It seems, though, that the two of you are not in the same rhythm when it comes to conversation! I think you showed great patience with him, I have to admire how you handled that. I hope you will be able to continue the thought with him in the future, because it is not a difficult one--I think he just misunderstood the meaning, and it's a very useful attitude--and the most positive! (loving life so much that you live as if you had only today left to enjoy)
Hi Kai,
Me too dear, no clashes there :)
That was a good one Kai..your latest…
love,
dev
Hi Firebird,
hmmmm...you seem intent not to leave me for good ;)
‘would like to know how you came to that change from "friends" to "marriage’” –
trying to catch hold of my weakness or what my dear!? ---
Since my past is now more public than private I will say it –
My long past lover, for whom I was waiting in vain – wanted me to clear his way….and by that time I realised life for a spinster, that too as ‘beautiful’(!? ;)) as me, would be too risky or a could turn out to be worthless fight, within and without….and this friend was there ready for a try :)
“It seems, though, that the two of you are not in the same rhythm when it comes to conversation!” –
Hope you noticed, its me who spoil the rhythm. With people I love, I am inclined to be so…don’t know why….
Was just imagining if the rhythm were too same – how boring our life could have been!!
Patience –in fact that’s my trademark in relationships – Not realised yet, my dear
On continuing the talk…about his belief in God – He says it ends with his belief in me –My questioning it there again was just to irritate him ;)
& loving life so much that you live as if you had only today left to enjoy – that’s a philosophy we both share….
Thank you dear….for coming and the comment..
love,
devika
Aha! Devika Chechi, I'm glad your husband took this up with you! Especially the death part, which seemed to have taken quite an amount of prominence in your mind!
Very well represented!
Do convey to him my wishes!
Cheers
Rakesh
Hi Rak!
Thank you for coming, dear...
Death -- I still have the thought as strong as ever in me..But, yeah I'm glad that he's more cool about it now...
conveying your wishes -- I wouldn't know if he still remembers you..it's been over three months that I spoke about you with him..
Chalo, will remind and convey. :)
anyway, glad that you liked it...
wishes,
devika
Marriage has to be the ultimate
test of any human, to be nude
physically, emotionally and
mentally.
Sometimes people who are with us
the most, see us clearly and at
the same time, not clearly at all,
for we become a mirror in which
they see themselves wearing our
face, and this becomes easier
for them.
Thank you for sharing this moment
Devika, I have learned much.
Hi Cynthia,
I agree with you.., yet could disagree with you...:)
Its we who mould our life..of course it goes with promise and compromise...
thanks for reading and the comment dear...
learning --learned much feeling makes us complacent...this is so much more :)
love,
devika
i liked the conversation of husband and wife. if only you can make the small conversation between husband and wife and use them in a novel if you plan to write ( novel centring around the emotions of soul searching woman from woman's prespective - i believe you can and i have positive faith you are capable of)
with out indicating the personal first person touch i think it would be a sucess.
Men always start a serious conversation and when it comes to serious center , he will have some one waiting for him and will leave the conversation half way before it gets into serious. Like how woman ( most , in general to what i had interacted with ) are impatient men really cant take a serious talk with a woman though he will start one. - just my observation about woman and man around me. Men are weaker sex when it comes to emotional expression and discussion.
Hi KS,
Nice to have that comment...
i don't what i'll write about...that's something beyond me now...let's see...
a woman's capacity is much more that one realise..
But the patriarch system reversed it all..reasons --so many may be...
and men 'show' that they like the coy toy in a woman..and lo! the girl is gone for a toss :)
devika
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